How to Write a Diary

Diaries are wonderful objects that allow you to discuss your emotions, record dreams or ideas, and reflect on daily life in a safe, private space. While there's no single, definitive way to write a diary, there are some basic tricks you can use to get the most out of your writing. If you aren't sure what to write about, using prompts like inspirational quotes can help get started on new entries.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Sample Diary Entries

Sample Diary Entries

Sample Diary Entries

Sample Travel Diary

Sample Travel Diary

[Edit]Brainstorming Topics

1. Write about the events of your day. Think about everything that happened that day and record any highlights or feelings that stand out to you. Even if you had a pretty standard day, you might be surprised by deeper thoughts and feelings that come up as you write down details about your day.^[1]
   
   • Feel free to veer off into any topic you want as you're writing about the day's events.
   • For example, you could write about the English exam you took at school that day. Are you feeling good about the exam? Do you wish you had studied more? Are you nervous to receive your grade?
2. Contemplate your goals for the future and how to achieve them. Make a list of your short-term and long-term goals. Then, go through each item on the list and write in detail about your plan to accomplish the goal. Breaking each goal up into smaller tasks that you can work on can make your goals feel less overwhelming.^[2]
   
   • For example, you could write about short-term goals like studying for your algebra exam or hitting the gym for a cardio session.
   • Long-term goals would be stuff like choosing and applying to colleges or saving up money to buy a car.
3. Jot down your current feelings or mood. Don't worry about providing any context for your emotions, just focus on accurately describing what they are.^[3] You can then use those feelings and thoughts as prompts for creating detailed diary entries. Work on one thought or emotion at a time and explore it as fully as you can.
   
   • For example, if you're feeling sad, you can write a diary entry about why you feel that way and any events that may have contributed.
   • You can add a line from the lyrics of a song you are often listening to in your entry to preserve the current mood.
4. Write down inspirational quotes and what they mean to you. Inspirational quotes can come from anywhere—a famous person, your favorite book or movie, or even a friend or a family member. Any quote you find inspiring is a great starting point. Record the quote in your diary and note where it came from. Then, explain what it means to you in your own words.^[4]
   
   • For example, you might write down a quote like, "The secret of getting ahead is getting started," which came from Mark Twain. Write a diary entry about what this means to you and what things you need to get started on to achieve certain goals.
5. Explore your favorite subjects or hobbies in-depth. Make a list of topics that you love or your favorite hobbies. You might love movies, sports, food, travel, art, or fashion. The subjects can be anything you want, as long as they interest and inspire you. Then, choose one item from the list and create a diary entry about it.^[5]
   
   • For example, if you love sports, write about why you love a certain sport, your favorite teams, and personal goals you have if you play any sports yourself.
   • If you love painting, you could write about your favorite painters, the painting styles that speak to you the most, recent paintings you've made, and ideas for future paintings.

[Edit]Creating Personal Entries

1. Write the date in the corner or on the first line. You may not write in your diary every day, so dating your entries can help you keep track of when things happened. Since you'll be writing in your diary over a long period of time, dates will also help you stay organized and provide context when you look back on your entries in the future.^[6]
   
   • If you like, you can also put the time, day of the week, and your location alongside the date.
2. Begin each entry with a topic in mind. Most people reach for their diary when they have something they want to get down on paper or think about. This could be anything—something that happened that day, a dream you had, future plans, an event, an idea, or strong emotion or mood you're feeling.^[7]
   
   • Once you start writing, you're free to veer off into any subject you like! But having something in mind when you start the entry can help kickstart the writing process.
3. Open with "Dear Diary" if you want to. This is a completely personal choice, so go with what works best and feels right for you. At first, addressing the "Diary" can feel almost like reaching out to a friend rather than simply writing or talking to yourself. You may find this helpful if you're new to journaling.^[8]
   
4. Write in the first person by using "I" statements. Diaries are very personal items, and they typically work best when you speak in the first person. In your diary, you are free to make everything about you! Many people find this aspect extremely cathartic, especially when it comes to exploring personal thoughts, emotions, and reactions.^[9]
   
   • For example, you might write something like, "I'm worried about volleyball tryouts this week. I've practiced a lot and I feel ready, but I'm so nervous I can hardly eat."
5. Be honest in your entries. Many people find diary writing cathartic because they can let go of inhibitions on the page and truly be themselves. Feel free to record your emotions, both positive and negative, in their entirety in your diary. Remember that no one will ever see what you've written, so you can write honestly about anything. This is for your eyes only.
   
   • For example, you might write, "I feel jealous of Shaun's new car. I'm happy for him, but it seems really unfair that his parents bought him a brand new car. I'm working every day after school just to save up for a used car."
   • If you're afraid someone will find and read your diary, there are things you can do to prevent this. Physical diaries with locks and password-protected digital diaries are two of the most popular ways to control privacy.
   • Many people have epiphanies about themselves and their relationships through honest diary writing. Be open to learning about yourself as you write.
6. Don't worry too much about grammar and spelling. Your diary is a safe space for you to vent and share without the pressures of external judgment. Write freely and without inhibition. Being grammatically correct, proper spelling, and writing perfect phrases are not nearly as important as getting your thoughts and feelings down on the page. Jot down the first things that come to mind when considering your day, current mood, and any feelings you're struggling with.^[10]
   
   • For some people, it helps to take a few minutes at the beginning of each entry to simply free write.
7. Use lots of details to preserve moments in time. Diaries help you preserve thoughts and feelings as they're happening. You're also able to record events immediately after they happen when details are still fresh in your mind. Since memories can become unreliable, especially as time passes, recording precise details vividly can help you preserve moments in time exactly as they occurred.^[11]
   
   • Detailed writing isn't for everyone, so don't feel like you have to write long, wordy sentences. If you find it easier to express your emotions in short bursts or even bullet points, feel free to do that.

[Edit]Getting into a Routine

1. Choose a specific time each day to write in your diary. Many people struggle to find the time to write in their diary. Others simply forget to write. It helps to choose a specific time each day for diary writing so that you can develop the habit. Eventually, it will become second nature, but it can help to set a daily reminder on your phone until then!^[12]
   
   • For example, you might choose to write in your diary every night right before bed.
   • Don't set an unrealistic schedule for yourself. If writing every day seems out of reach, plan on writing entry 3 times a week instead.
2. Keep your writing sessions short in the beginning. You don't have to set aside a huge chunk of time every day for writing in your diary! 10-15 minutes per session is a great goal when you're just starting out. Jot down your most pressing and immediate feelings and thoughts. You can always write more later in the week when you have time!^[13]
   
   • For example, you could write a few key bullet points in your diary when you're pressed for time.
   • Setting an intimidating schedule for yourself could be counterproductive. You want journaling to be an outlet, not a chore, so go easy on yourself.
   • Pick a time to write when you don't have other obligations or time constraints.
3. Use illustrations if you prefer drawing to writing. Some people find if easier to convey their thoughts and emotions through drawing rather than writing. If you're more likely to stick to a schedule when drawing or sketching is involved, feel free to use that approach!^[14]
   
   • Quick drawings may also help you get down something that you want to remember but don't have time to write about.

[Edit]Tips

• Writing a diary should be a cathartic experience and not a chore. Allow yourself to enjoy your writing!
• To camouflage your diary, write "Algebra Notes" or "School Notebook" on the cover.

[Edit]Related wikiHows

• Hide Your Diary
• Keep a Diary and Stick to It

[Edit]References

[Edit]Quick Summary

1. ↑ [v161940_b01]. 9 September 2021.
2. ↑ https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/how-to-use-journaling-to-set-goals
3. ↑ [v161855_b01]. 22 July 2021.
4. ↑ https://positivepsychology.com/writing-therapy/
5. ↑ https://penzu.com/how-to-start-and-write-a-diary
6. ↑ https://www.readingrockets.org/topics/writing/articles/journal-writing
7. ↑ https://www.readingrockets.org/topics/writing/articles/journal-writing
8. ↑ https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/topics/z2yycdm/articles/zmmj7nb
9. ↑ https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/topics/z2yycdm/articles/zmmj7nb
10. ↑ https://www.readingrockets.org/topics/writing/articles/journal-writing
11. ↑ https://penzu.com/how-to-start-and-write-a-diary
12. ↑ https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?ContentID=4552&ContentTypeID=1
13. ↑ https://penzu.com/how-to-start-and-write-a-diary
14. ↑ https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?ContentID=4552&ContentTypeID=1

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How to Put Yourself First

You can’t pour from an empty cup, so it’s time to put yourself first. Putting yourself first means taking time for self-care, enforcing your boundaries, and treating yourself with kindness. Your needs are just as important as everyone else’s, so it’s not selfish to prioritize yourself sometimes. We’re here to help you start taking great care of yourself by putting yourself first.

This article is based on an interview with our certified life coach, Sydney Axelrod, owner of Sydney Axelrod LLC.

[Edit]Things You Should Know

• Take time for yourself so you can rest, practice self-care, or pursue a hobby.
• Ask for help when you need it, and say “no” when something isn’t right for you.
• Be compassionate toward yourself and give yourself permission to do what’s right for you.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Set personal boundaries.

1. It’s okay to say “no” sometimes. If you’re not careful, people will demand too much of you, leaving you burnt out. To prevent this, establish boundaries with your friends, family, and coworkers so you can put yourself first when necessary.^[1] If someone violates your boundaries, explain that what they did isn’t okay.
   
   • You might tell your coworkers that you’re unavailable after work hours.
   • You could ask friends not to call or text you after 10:00 p.m. because that’s when you wind down.
   • You may ask your partner to complete some chores on their own.
   • If your friend invites you to a party but you want to stay home and study, communicate that clearly to your friend by saying "no."

[Edit]Ask for help when you need it.

1. You can’t do everything on your own. It’s okay to ask for help when you need it because everyone needs a helping hand from time to time. When you need something, try asking in person because people are more likely to say “yes.” Additionally, be direct about what you need and how they can help.^[2]
   
   • “I’m swamped with work this week. Can you take care of the laundry?”
   • “I made an appointment after work today. Could you pick up the kids?”
   • “I won’t be able to give this project the attention it needs with my current workload. Could you ask someone else?”

[Edit]Prioritize rest.

1. Give yourself time to unwind, even if chores go undone. You need to fill your cup before you can fill anyone else's, which means you need rest.^[3] To make sure you have time to relax, schedule time to rest into your week, whether it’s a few hours or an entire day. Treat it like any other appointment and stick to it.
   
   • Spend an evening at home under a comfy blanket.
   • Spend Sunday morning drinking coffee and reading.
   • Take a quick 20-minute nap when you feel tired.
   • Get a good night’s sleep.

[Edit]Reduce stress.

1. Blow off steam every day so it doesn’t build up. To help reduce your stress choose stress relievers that are easy to include in your daily habits. Try to engage your five senses because you’ll be able to relax more easily. Here are some ideas you could try:^[4]
   
   • Savor hot herbal tea.
   • Apply a scented lotion.
   • Light a candle and listen to calming music.
   • Take a bath with scented bath salts.
   • Go for a walk outside.

[Edit]Take 15 minutes for fun daily.

1. You deserve time to do something you enjoy. Schedule a block of time every day that you can use to enrich yourself.^[5] Spend this time doing something like relaxing, watching your favorite show, reading, or making something.
   
   • Do something creative.^[6]
   • Work on a puzzle.
   • Sit outside and enjoy a beverage.

[Edit]Get a hobby.

1. Pick up an old hobby or start a new one that brings you joy. Try to engage in your hobby at least once a week, even if it's just for a few minutes. You might even pick something you can carry with you, like knitting or playing handheld games. Here are some hobbies you might try:^[7]
   
   • Drawing.
   • Painting.
   • Gaming.
   • Gardening.
   • Playing an instrument.
   • Knitting.
   • Woodworking.

[Edit]Practice gratitude.

1. Create an abundance mindset by counting your blessings. When you act from a mindset of abundance, you’ll feel happier and more fulfilled.^[8] To help you focus on the good in your life, make a gratitude list by writing down three things every day that you’re grateful for. You could also thank people when they do something special for you. You could be grateful for:
   
   • Your home.
   • Your friends, family, and partner.
   • Your pet.
   • Your job.
   • Delicious food, like chocolate.
   • Coffee.
   • Beautiful weather.

[Edit]Eat a healthy diet.

1. Nourish your body by eating healthy foods. It’s hard to stick to a healthy diet after a long day, but nutritious food gives you energy and supports good health.^[9] In general, eat more fruits and vegetables, as well as complex carbohydrates. On the other hand, limit sugar and saturated fat.^[10] You deserve to feel your best, so fuel your body well.
   
   • Try meal prepping on Sundays so you have healthy meals for the entire week.
   • Snack on low-prep fresh foods, like baby carrots, apple slices, or bananas.
   • Prepare bigger dinners so you can eat leftovers for lunch the next day.

[Edit]Exercise daily.

1. Exercise improves your wellbeing. In general, you need about 150 minutes of moderate exercise or 75 minutes of vigorous exercise a week for health. Pick an exercise that you enjoy so that it’s easy to stick to your goals, and make an exercise schedule. Plus, you’ll have more fun.^[11]
   
   • Take a dance class.
   • Go for long walks.
   • Follow along with a video workout.
   • Play a recreational sport, like softball, tennis, or basketball.

[Edit]Try meditation.

1. Meditate daily to reduce stress and improve your well-being. For a simple meditation, sit in a comfortable position and close your eyes. Then, focus on your breath while clearing your mind and sit for at least 10 to 15 minutes. If your mind wanders, gently refocus on your breath. You might also repeat a mantra, like “peace” or “calm.”^[12]
   
   • Try apps like Headspace or Insight Timer for free guided meditations.

[Edit]Treat yourself with compassion.

1. Be kind to yourself. If you’re too hard on yourself, you’ll burn out really easily. You’re only human, so you’ll make mistakes sometimes. When you do something wrong, acknowledge your responsibility and try to make it right. Then, move on and let go of any guilt that you feel over what happened.^[13]
   
   • Forgive yourself for mistakes you’ve made in the past.
   • Apologize for your mistakes, then start fresh.

[Edit]Trust yourself.

1. Listen to your inner voice when making decisions for yourself. You know yourself better than anyone else does, so it’s important that you do what’s right for you. Start by surrounding yourself with people who support you and by speaking kindly to yourself.^[14] Trust yourself to decide what’s right for you.
   
   • Learn to listen to your intuition. Start by grounding yourself by breathing deeply and imagining a cord connecting you to the earth. Then, ask yourself yes or no questions. Let the feeling in your body give you the answer.^[15]

[Edit]Challenge negative beliefs.

1. Change how you think about putting yourself first. Start by confronting any beliefs you might have about it being selfish or lazy. Then, give yourself permission to put yourself first. Additionally, remind yourself that there’s no deadline for changing how you treat yourself or for trying something new.^[16]
   
   • When you think something like, “I’m being selfish for prioritizing myself today,” counter with, “I need to take care of myself before I can take care of others.”
   • If you think, “Saying ‘no’ to that new project is lazy,” combat it with “I need to rest if I want to be my best.”
   • Keeping a journal can help you work through your thoughts and beliefs.

[Edit]Tips

• Talk to a therapist if you’re struggling to put yourself first.^[17] You can attend therapy appointments online through BetterHelp.
• Talk to your family and friends about needing to put yourself first sometimes.

[Edit]References

1. ↑ https://mhanational.org/taking-time-yourself
2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tracking-wonder/202002/4-tips-effectively-ask-help-and-get-yes
3. ↑ [v161450_b01]. 30 June 2020.
4. ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/stress/quick-stress-relief.htm
5. ↑ https://mhanational.org/taking-time-yourself
6. ↑ [v161450_b01]. 30 June 2020.
7. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-emotional-meter/201711/it-s-never-too-late-put-yourself-first
8. ↑ [v161450_b01]. 30 June 2020.
9. ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/10681-the-psychology-of-eating
10. ↑ https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/eat-well/how-to-eat-a-balanced-diet/eight-tips-for-healthy-eating/
11. ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/fitness/expert-answers/exercise/faq-20057916
12. ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/meditation/art-20045858
13. ↑ https://www.apa.org/monitor/2016/09/ce-corner
14. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/3-ways-to-develop-self-trust#1
15. ↑ [v161936_b01]. 2 September 2021.
16. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-emotional-meter/201711/it-s-never-too-late-put-yourself-first
17. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/seeking-mental-health-care-taking-the-first-scary-step#1

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How to Live A Happy Life

Everyone wants to be happy in life. While individuals may define success or measure happiness differently, there are some basic qualities of a happy life that seem to be universal. Studies have shown that no matter where you begin in life, how you consciously live through your adult years will determine your overall lifelong happiness more than your financial situation, or even your happiness at an earlier age.^[1] Learning how to live better and feel more positive about the world around you can help you live a happy and meaningful life.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Living a Healthier Life

1. Reduce negative self-talk. Everyone engages in negative self-talk at some point or another. While some people may find it motivating, studies show that it actually contributes to stress, depression, and poor coping skills.^[2] Learning how to identify negative self-talk can help you catch yourself when you're thinking poorly of yourself, which can make it easier to then consciously engage in a more positive way of thinking.^[3] Some common forms of negative self-talk include:
   
   • Filtering - this behavioral problem involves ignoring or "filtering out" all the positive aspects of your life or a given situation, and instead focusing on only the negative aspects. An example might be overlooking everything you accomplished at work and instead focusing on the one problem you were unable to successfully resolve.
   • Personalizing - this entails blaming yourself for everything that happens. It can also involve interpreting any situational criticism as something that you are or should be blamed for. An example of this might involve hearing that your friends can't make it to a party and assuming that they canceled their plans to avoid seeing you.
   • Catastrophizing - this means automatically preparing for or expecting the worst possible scenario. An example of this might be assuming that the rest of your day will go wrong because of one minor setback early in your day.
   • Polarizing - this involves seeing things, people, and situations as always good or always bad. An example might be assuming that because you had an off day at work, you are automatically a bad employee.
2. Think positive. Thinking positively does not mean that you ignore the bad or unpleasant things in life. It simply means that you approach every situation in life, both good and bad, with a positive outlook and a productive mindset.^[4] You can work on engaging in positive thinking in little ways every day. To start thinking more positively, try to:
   
   • identify the things you think negatively about, and recognize why
   • evaluate your thoughts and feelings throughout the day
   • seek humor in everyday situations and allow yourself to smile or laugh even when you're upset
   • live a healthy lifestyle
   • spend time with positive people (and avoid negative people as much as possible)
   • be gentle with yourself - a good rule for yourself is to avoid thinking things about yourself that you would not say to another person^[5]
   • try to find the positive aspects of negative situations
   • envision a more positive future for yourself and determine what you'll need to do to make that vision a reality^[6]
3. Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness involves developing an awareness of where you are, what you are doing, and what you are sensing/feeling in the present moment.^[7] Practicing mindfulness can reduce stress, manage anxiety and depression, and improve your mood.
   
   • Focus on your breathing. Become aware of the physical sensation of each breath passing through your nostrils, the rising and falling of your abdomen, and the feeling of your legs and feet on the chair or floor.
   • Meditate. Activities that promote meditation, including an extended peaceful prayer, yoga, Tai Chi, or spiritual reflection, actually change an area of your brain called the insula, which is involved in your experience of empathy/understanding others. Developing your empathy muscles (helping others) will help you lead a happier life.^[8]
   • Try to engage your senses in everything you do. When you eat, look at your food for a moment and smell it. You may want to consider feeling it with your hands to experience the tactile sensation of your food. Try to anticipate what it will taste like, and chew slowly to savor the experience.^[9]
4. Eat a healthy diet. What you eat can have a huge impact on how you feel. It's not enough to avoid bad foods. You should also be getting vitamins and nutrients from all of the major food groups, and avoiding overeating or under-eating.
   
   • Most adults need 1.5 to 2 cups of fresh fruit or 100% fruit juice every day.^[10]
   • Adults should eat between 2.5 and 3 cups of fresh vegetables every day.^[11]
   • Choose whole grains instead of refined grains. Adults should eat six to eight ounces of whole grains every day, depending on their age, gender, and activity level.^[12]
   • Eat a variety of protein foods every day. Adults typically need between 5 and 6.5 ounces of lean protein, including seafood, poultry/eggs, tofu, beans, nuts, and seeds.^[13]
   • Choose low-fat or fat-free dairy products, including milk, yogurt, cheese, or soymilk. Adults typically need three cups of dairy every day.^[14]
   • Drink enough water each day. General guidelines for living in a temperate climate suggest that men should drink three liters of water each day, and women should drink 2.2 liters. If you live in a hot environment, however, or if you live a very active lifestyle (especially if you exercise regularly), you should increase your water intake to account for the water lost in sweat.^[15]
5. Manage stress in your life. You cannot avoid stressful situations, but you can find ways to relieve your stress. You can use relaxation techniques, such as meditation, visualization, tai chi, yoga, and deep breathing.^[16]
   
   • Practice deep breathing by breathing in and out from your diaphragm (below the ribcage), instead of taking shallow breaths from your chest. Try to develop a pattern of deep breathing, like counting to five on a slow inhalation, holding your breath for five seconds, and exhaling slowly for five seconds.^[17]
   • Practice meditation by sitting in a comfortable position away from anything that might distract you. Use deep breathing and try to focus only on your breath, letting go of any thoughts that pass through your mind without judging them or engaging with them.^[18]
   • Use visualization to calm your mind and put yourself in a better mood. Combine deep breathing with an imagined image of something calming, such as a relaxing place or situation.^[19]
6. Cultivate a healthy lifestyle. In addition to eating a healthy diet, it's important to live a healthy and active lifestyle. How well you care for your body in your early and middle years can have a big impact on your health later in life.
   
   • Exercise regularly. Experts recommend getting at least 150 minutes each week of moderate aerobic activity, or at least 75 minutes per week of strenuous aerobic activity. Try to incorporate strength-training exercises (like lifting weights or using weight resistance) at least twice each week for a well-rounded workout.^[20]
   • Avoid smoking, and quit if you are currently a smoker.^[21] You can use smoking cessation products like nicotine gum or patches, and you may find it helpful to attend a support group or recruit the help of your friends/family.^[22]
   • Practice safe sex by always using condoms and engaging in monogamous, exclusive relationships.^[23]

[Edit]Finding Purpose in Your Life

1. Determine what you value most. Everyone has things that are important in life, but what do you ultimately value above all else? Don't think about physical, tangible things. Instead, focus on what you want in your life that will give your life a sense of meaning and purpose. Some commonly valued elements of a meaningful life include^[24]:
   
   • faith
   • family
   • friendship/connections with others
   • compassion
   • excellence
   • generosity/service to others
2. Find a career that challenges you. Personal growth can give you a tremendous sense of meaning and purpose. One of the best and most fulfilling ways to accomplish this is by finding a career that challenges you to grow and develop as a person.^[25]
   
   • Figure out what you're passionate about doing. You might begin this by examining what your values are. Do you value compassion and generosity? Perhaps a career helping other people might be personally fulfilling for you.
   • Push yourself out of your comfort zone. Just because you are getting by at your job, it does not mean that you derive any real satisfaction or fulfillment from it. Try finding ways to pursue your passion through volunteer work, and if you like it, see if there is any way you can transition into doing that work professionally on a full-time basis.
   • Having a fulfilling career will most likely give you a greater sense of purpose and fulfillment than having a lot of money would. You need to be financially secure, of course, but it's more important to live with a sense of purpose than to acquire meaningless wealth.
3. Consider pursuing a spiritual life. Being spiritual may mean a religious life for some people, but spirituality does not require any organized religion. It's entirely possible to live a spiritual life without ever identifying as religious, though some people find religion itself to be quite fulfilling.
   
   • Practice self-reflection every day. Learn to control and take responsibility for your thoughts, words, and actions.
   • Find ways to increase your compassion for others. Work to help others in need, no matter what their circumstances might be.
   • Try to maintain hope and a positive attitude, even during stressful or tragic situations.^[26]
   • Engage with nature. The natural world can be tremendously calming, and many people find that being in nature gives them a sense of spiritual happiness. Try going for walks in the woods, and contemplating the landscape whenever you are outdoors. You can also bring nature to you by planting a garden or growing flowering plants in your home or yard.^[27]
4. Find a sense of community. Belonging to some kind of community is an important component of mental health. It can also help give you a sense of purpose and meaning in your life. Even introverted individuals often find that being a part of some larger community is fulfilling and enjoyable.^[28]
   
   • Find groups that share a cause you're passionate about.
   • Try volunteering with like-minded people for some kind of shared cause.
   • Join (or start) a book club. You'll get to interact with people who share your interests while also bonding over works of art.^[29]

[Edit]Dealing with Challenges in Life

1. Confront your struggles. It may seem easier to avoid the challenges in life than to face them head-on. But avoiding your problems will only lead to more problems down the road, which may result in your feeling a lack of control. The best way to deal with challenge and struggle in your life is to acknowledge them and face it.^[30]
   
   • Don't avoid dealing with your problems. Address them as they arise, and recognize that a given problem needs your attention.
   • Think about the times you've faced your problems in the past. You no doubt walked away with a greater sense of purpose and a stronger sense of confidence. Remember this as you approach new and bigger problems, and take comfort in this fact.
2. Accept what you have, not what you want. One of the best ways to feel content with the conditions of your life (no matter how challenging) is to practice accepting your situation as it is. Though you may wish things were easier (like having more money, a more secure job, or even better health), dwelling on what you don't have will not make living in the present any easier.^[31]
   
   • Remember that without hard times, you would not have as much appreciation for the good times.
   • Accepting your life the way it is right now is the only way you can truly appreciate everything you have. Be grateful for the people in your life, no matter how difficult your life's circumstances may be at the moment.
   • Recognize that everyone has similar struggles in some form or another. No life is without difficulty, but it is through perseverance and mindfulness that life becomes joyous and meaningful.
3. Try to see problems as opportunities. It's not always easy to see the silver lining in unfortunate or challenging situations. But the reality of the situation is that struggle often leads to new insights about yourself, a new perspective on life, and even a renewed sense of purpose.^[32]
   
   • It will not be easy to see your problems as an opportunity for growth, but with mindfulness and a lot of practice, you'll quickly see that you do actually grow and develop from living through your challenges.
   • Recognize and always remember that life is full of meaning. Just because you are going through a hard time (like being unemployed or losing a loved one), or even suffering physical/medical ailments (like chronic illness or the loss of a limb), it does not mean that your life is without meaning.
   • Try to use the problems in your life to motivate you. Perhaps living with a medical condition might give you the opportunity to join others in raising awareness of that condition, or even working towards finding a cure.
   • Know that even if a given problem doesn't work out favorably, you'll still have grown as a person and developed more confidence as a result of facing your problems and trying to learn from them.

[Edit]Being a More Loving Person

1. Practice gratitude. Everyone has countless things to be grateful for in life, but in the chaos of day-to-day life, it can be easy to forget to practice gratitude. Increasing your gratitude in every situation and circumstance in life can help you feel better, and may help you find a greater sense of purpose.^[33]
   
   • Write a letter to someone you appreciate (a parent, a friend, your romantic partner, etc.) and let that person know why you appreciate them. Thank that person for everything they've done for you, and let them know that you value their friendship.
   • Keep a journal of things you're grateful for. You can write about the big things in life, of course, but carry your journal around every day and write about the little things, too. Perhaps a hot latte prepared perfectly at your favorite cafe was what you needed to feel better on a gray, rainy day. Often it's the little things that can have a tremendous impact on your day-to-day life.
   • Take time to dwell on pleasant places and things you encounter. Allow yourself to stop what you're doing and watch the sunset, or slow down your walk through the park to enjoy the colors of the leaves around you.
   • Share good news and joyous occasions with others in your life. Studies have shown that sharing good news with someone you care about can actually increase your joy, and it allows your friend to engage with you in your moment of happiness.
2. Identify and use constructive feedback. It can be hard to hear what other people think of your performance, but learning how to identify and use the constructive feedback that you receive can help you to develop your skills and work towards a happier life.
   
   • Keep in mind that criticism can be constructive or non-constructive. For example, if after giving a presentation someone tells you that you made a bunch of mistakes and that it was really boring, then this is not constructive. This statement is mean and it does not offer an opportunity for you to improve your next presentation.
   • However, if a classmate tells you that she really liked your presentation, but sometimes had a hard time following along because you were talking kind of fast, then this is constructive feedback. You received a compliment and can use this information to improve on your next presentation.
   • If you receive feedback that upsets you, try to take some time for yourself before you do or say anything about it. Take a walk, call up a friend, or do something else to distract yourself. Wait until you are feeling less emotional to think about ways that you can use the feedback to improve yourself.^[34]
3. Be forgiving of yourself and others. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to offer to someone who has hurt you. It can be even more difficult to forgive yourself when you've done something upsetting. However, harboring anger, resentment, or even guilt can be incredibly damaging to your sense of self, your mental health/wellbeing, and the relationships in your life.^[35]
   
   • We all make mistakes, and we often learn from those mistakes. That's what makes someone a stronger, more caring individual.
   • Forgiving others doesn't mean you have to necessarily forget others' wrongdoings. It also doesn't mean you should make yourself a doormat that other people walk all over. It simply means recognizing that someone (including yourself) made a mistake, hoping that something was learned from that mistake, and letting go of anger and resentment.
   • It's often easy to forgive others for their mistakes, but hard to forgive yourself. Don't hold yourself to an unfair standard that you wouldn't hold others to. Accept yourself as someone who is trying his or her best, and try to learn any lessons you can from your mistakes.
4. Cultivate compassion. Living compassionately will help you be a better friend, a more caring person, and an overall happier individual. In fact, studies show that practicing genuine compassion and love towards others can also give you greater insight into how and why other people live and think.
   
   • See yourself in others, and try to see others in yourself. Your experiences are ultimately not so different from other's experiences, and everyone desires happiness, health, and affection.
   • Offer genuine warmth, humor, and friendliness to everyone around you.
   • Try smiling at others. It may be the little boost that someone needed to get through a difficult moment.
   • Everyone has hurdles to overcome. We're learning through life every day, so it's natural that everyone will occasionally make mistakes.
   • Practice genuine gratitude to others. This extends beyond being grateful when someone does something nice to you. Learn to appreciate the patience, love, and efforts of everyone in your life, including those who work with you or for you.^[36]

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[Edit]Tips

• Living a happy life may not come easily for you. It may take a lot of work and awareness on your part. Ultimately, though, it will all be worth it.
• Be thankful for and grateful towards everyone in your life. Take stock of the good things and the kind people in your life, and always remember that life can be wonderful if you have the right attitude and the right support.
• Practice working towards a happier life every day. Over time it will become a habit, and it will start to come more easily.

[Edit]Related wikiHows

• Always Be in a Good Mood
• Make Lemonade when Life Gives You Lemons

[Edit]References

[Edit]Quick Summary

1. ↑ http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2012/02/decoding-keys-to-a-healthy-life/
2. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950
3. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950?pg=2
4. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950
5. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950?pg=2
6. ↑ http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/stay-positive
7. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/consumer-health/in-depth/mindfulness-exercises/art-20046356
8. ↑ http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_neuroscience_of_happiness
9. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/consumer-health/in-depth/mindfulness-exercises/art-20046356?pg=2
10. ↑ http://www.choosemyplate.gov/fruit
11. ↑ http://www.choosemyplate.gov/vegetables
12. ↑ http://www.choosemyplate.gov/grains
13. ↑ http://www.choosemyplate.gov/protein-foods
14. ↑ http://www.choosemyplate.gov/dairy
15. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/nutrition-and-healthy-eating/in-depth/water/art-20044256
16. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/basics/relaxation-techniques/hlv-20049495
17. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/stress-management/basics/definition/prc-20021046
18. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/basics/definition/prc-20013692
19. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/stress-management/basics/definition/prc-20021046
20. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/fitness/basics/fitness-basics/hlv-20049447
21. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/quit-smoking/basics/quitsmoking-basics/hlv-20049487
22. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/quit-smoking/basics/quitsmoking-action-plan/hlv-20049487
23. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/sexual-health/basics/std-prevention/hlv-20049432
24. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/mind-over-money/201309/living-purpose
25. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/turning-point/201404/how-live-purposeful-and-fulfilling-life
26. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/spiritual-wisdom-secular-times/201107/advancing-the-spiritual-path-1-spiritual-skills
27. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/spiritual-wisdom-secular-times/201108/advancing-the-spiritual-path-3-secular-spiritual
28. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-introverts-corner/201502/why-even-introverts-need-community
29. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-personal-renaissance/201502/where-is-your-community
30. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/headshrinkers-guide-the-galaxy/201412/7-strategies-face-lifes-challenges
31. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/headshrinkers-guide-the-galaxy/201412/7-strategies-face-lifes-challenges
32. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/meaning-making/201405/overcoming-lifes-difficult-moments
33. ↑ http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/stay-positive
34. ↑ https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/-/media/CCI/Consumer-Modules/Assert-Yourself/Assert-Yourself---07----Dealing-With-Criticism-Assertively.pdf
35. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/turning-straw-gold/201601/how-live-compassionately-forgive-yourself-forgive-others
36. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/lifetime-connections/201507/4-keys-happiness

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